In our medium the word depression is used a lot for situations in which we feel sad. Low moods or maybe even tired. In a love break, the psychological reaction is the mourning, which carries within itself emotional changes that the person experiences as debasors, of loneliness and abandonment; The emotional or affective state is SAD but not because of this can be depression, although if the person does not prepare their grieving properly, it becomes pathological, harmful or negative and if it could be the trigger to a depressive episode, more if you have the predisposition To this type of disease.
The duel will go through different stages that may be sequential or agreed:
- denial: thoughts and feelings that what happened is not real, that is transient or that what happened is like a bad dream; The most frequent thoughts are "we'll be back" "this is temporary" "just to give you a lesson" "you will forgive me" "this can not be happening"
- anger: feelings of anger, frustration, many even with desires of vegan, protests to life with ideas of impairment. "I am the most bad" "I am going to do the same" "because to me"
- negotiation: when the person tries to compensate in some way psychological discomfort, either by using spiritual means, making religious promises, "send" or seek other means where they buy hopes with spellers or spiritists.- depression: and here is where you can misinterpret the term of depression, because mourning what it entails is a feeling of great sadness with feelings of loneliness and abandonment by the absence of the loved one, there is emotional pain and can be reached To somatize with manfestations of alterations in the health, in the alimentary habits or of their daily routines. Crying is the way to manifest it and may present some sleep disturbances.
- acceptance: it is the last end of the process where the person can remember who I love without suffering, without that emotional charge that produces psychological pain.
If the person has developed good coping tools, he will pass the duel and overcome it; The time in a duel is something that everyone is asked "until when?" "How long will I suffer?", Time is always relative and depends on how you let the grieving flow, it is not good that you repress the desire to cry or talk about that person or to be remembering the good or bad moments , On the contrary express it openly, until the tears run out, until the subject is exhausted; Talk to someone who listens to you and who tolerates repetition in your speech, look for a professional if you feel that you have already spent too much time and that you feel anchored; A psychologist can facilitate you to accept acceptance of the duel, you must go ahead and predisponerte to new experiences of love, never pretend that they will be the same, each relationship is a unique and different experience since we humans are all different.
Martha Santana. Psychology
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