THE IDEAS OF DEATH AND SELF-RELIEF. WHEN YOU BECOME A HABIT

THE IDEAS OF DEATH AND SELF-RELIEF. WHEN YOU BECOME A HABIT
April 11, 2017
During some stage of our lives, ideas related to death may appear, either with a suicidal intent or with the desire to die; We all have problems and difficulties that at the moment may seem like something inevitable, insurmountable or difficult to face ... that's when we test ourselves to prove our ability to face them ... but, and if these thoughts or situations flood the soul And understanding ... what is happening ?? Thoughts become the worst enemy, and the content of this can put our lives at risk, we feel life is disgusting, repugnant or full of disabilities ... those thoughts like "my life does not make sense", "I am no good for "I'm the black sheep" "it's better to die," "because of me ..."Are ideas that incapacitate, invade, disorient the thought and the worst thing is that they can lead to structuring suicidal thoughts or look for the way to get rid of them causing physical pain. In Youth it is more frequent to happen, and something that has become viral is to say that they are depressed and that the best way to face it is cut in the wrists or in the legs ... causing wounds that very probably later will hide and They will feel ashamed of their scars; The emotional changes of young people appear constantly and are taken as a bipolarity or as a depression, becomes a style of communication and is assumed as a title from which to feel proud, become a lifestyle with negative habits; Their parents are usually horrified and do not know how to act, because they always say "it was not like that, from one moment to another change", are parents who also feel frustrated and disconcerted to see that son to whom everything has been given To be "happy" throws everything to lose, it is possible that it is an act of rebellion, a way of protesting, a depressive, but above all is the way to achieve recognition among groups of friends to feel approved,Both the young man and the parents need to seek guidance without recriminations or blame; To be willing to strive to change those acquired habits of thought and behavior, as well as to dispose an open mind for a therapeutic process; Change your mind, change your lens to see life from another angle, change your style and be a unique and unrepeatable person, strengthen yourself with tools to manage life, improve it and seek happiness; It is necessary to look for an adult confidant who listens and understands it, without pointing it out, or denigrating it; Not pretend that during the youth the children are what the parents want them to be, but to respect, support and guide them. It is necessary to look for a professional in psychology that can take care of them individually and that makes family intervention to improve the communication, the tolerance, the affective bonds and the handling of an appropriate authority.
Martha Santana.Psicologa.